Temperaments of Children are Always a Challenge for Good Parenting
Temperaments of Children are Always a Challenge for Good Parenting
I have been working with parents for a long time, where one parenting style was perfectly well with one child and fail for the other. There are many ways to be a perfect parents and there are also many more to be a good one. In many cases, it is seen that many parents fail to deal with their ward in some particular case.
The same style of dealing with all children fails sometimes. You should not be shock be know that children sharing the same DNA may have different behavior. The parents who manage with one of their child to deal may fail with the other child even though they use the same treatment. It is because one may have a uniqueness of its own than the 100’s. That is why the children of same parents demands different treatment.
When there is the need of any development like physically or psychologically, the parents need to be more attentive to deal with their wards. In this matter, parenting becomes more complicated.
The failure of parents with one of their children makes them insecure and they become distracted. In this case, they seek for some tips to improve their loving tool for their children. Generally, this drags them into the offices of some people like me. They hope that they can get some help to be more successful parent for their children. .
Good parenting does not have same features. There may be only handful common feature of good parenting. After all, the adults as well as the parent are comfortable with our own authority. When they are with their parent, they do not confuse being a child’s friend. There are always some common pitfalls like they become too emotional themselves or much talkative. Good parents are fair, consistent and resist all these common pitfalls. Being inconsistent about the way in which the parents deal with their wards. Parents can also be successful by providing them the platform to stretch their own next necessary level of development. It gives the children the sense of security and predictability. Good parenting demands giving positive attention to your children rather saying “no” for everything. By doing this, your child becomes more positive in sharing and disclosing their problems to you. Being friendly with your wards is very important in order to know their problems. This will reduce the hide and seek game between the parents and the children.
(note these are all tips of course, how u do the parenting is all up to u. If u are not sure about anything please get professional help/advice. No copy write infringement intended)
Motivating Your Teen To do Their Best In School
You know your teen can handle the work, you know your teen knows what to do, yet you watch your teen fall short of meeting a certain educational goal. Many parents have witnessed this over the course of parenting their teens and many parents find it hard to endure a teen whom they feel isn’t trying their hardest. If you observe your teen refusing to do homework or making more out of an assignment than there really is, this is often a way of expressing their confusion, frustrations and at times, anger.
Under-achievement in teens can be caused by many things:
Emotional discomfort. A teen who has experienced a life changing event (addition to the family, a family loss, divorce…etc) is very likely to go through a period of educational underachievement. High parental expectations. Many times parents put too much pressure on their teen to make a certain grade, excel in a certain subject or sport or perhaps pick a certain career path and this can have a negative impact on the teen. If the academic pressures on your teen are too strong, your teen may feel the need to rebel.
Undiagnosed learning disabilities – there are time where a mild learning disabilities is missed in lower level schooling or there could be a physical hindrance such as poor eyesight or hearing difficulty. Peer pressure. Pure and simple, there is good peer pressure and there is negative peer pressure. Many teens feel that the smarter they are, that some of their friends won’t like them. They may feel the need to perform at a certain level to feel accepted into a certain clique of friends.
If you notice your teen becoming an underachiever, first check in with your teen to see if there is something that you can do to help. Communicate with your teen about how he or she is feeling about school overall and ask them if there are any problemsYou can then speak with your child’s teacher at school to see if there are areas where extra help would be beneficial. Many schools offer free tutoring services. There are many times that an underachieving teen has hit a downward spiral because they are disorganized and find it hard to keep up with the schoolwork and other activities they are involved in.
While it may be hard for some parents to digest, not all children are academically inclined. Even if your child isn’t a scholar, that doesn’t mean that they can’t excel in many other areas. If you tune into your child, you can help them find out exactly what they are good at and passionate about. Letting your child know that doing their best is good enough and if their best IS a C then that is OK will go a long way with your child. It will encourage your child to try their very best and it will alleviate some of the pressures that they feel which may cause your child to rebel or shut down completely.
Many teens that are underachieving will see that it will affect their self esteem in a negative way. If you teen has low self esteem, offering them emotional and comfort will go a long way. The best way to let your child know that you love them is to shower them with acceptance. Make sure that no matter what grades your child brings home, that doesn’t mean that you love him or her any less. Help your teen manage his/her schedule better. Make sure that they have everything they need to stay as organized as possible. Help them to set goals for themselves as it pertains to school (grades, study habits..etc). You can even suggest that your teen start up a study group and offer to host it at your home. The key here is to try everything that you can and to find out why your teen is not living up to their potential in school. If after working on this and tackling it from many angles, you feel you’re teen isn’t making any process, you may then want to consult a professional to see if there are some other issues causing the problems. You can seek professional support from a school counselor, doctor, therapist or clergy.
As a proactive parent we must seek resources to help our child take an interest in learning, growing and becoming independent. Being an informed parent is one of the 1st steps to ensuring your child has a brighter future.
(note these are all tips of course, how u do the parenting is all up to u. If u are not sure about anything please get professional help/advice. No copy write infringement intended)